OK now- Deep breath..........WAIT............
Then SCREAM !!!!!!
This is likely the result of eBay's NEW advertising campaign.
Buyers with no understanding, and unrealistic expectations are able to "come aboard", and do as they think they can please.
As a seller in Canada, shipping most of our items to the US- HIGHER shipping costs, and postal delays are a reality !
Try responding to a buyer who purchases, and pays for an item on THURSDAY, before a Holiday Friday weekend- and e-mails on MONDAY asking "WHERE ARE MY CARDS !!!!"
In your case, file the non-paying bidder alert.
Wait for their response.
File for end value fees- as they have no intention on paying.
Wait for the NEGATIVE FEEDBACK, which you will likely respond to in kind.
THEN- TAKE A DEEP BREATH- and realize that life goes on, and it's far to short sweat the little things- no matter how likely more inevitable they will become.
And remember to blame eBay for making it easier for people who have no business buying on line- to think "it" is the right thing to do!
Would threatening the buyer with a lawsuit for potential damages to your business, and reputation help?
After all, you have incurred REAL expenses, as well as time in listing the item, and the lost opportunity.
Maybe pointing out to a "litigious" American YOUR rights in this matter, may make you feel better.