so I was informed by the seller/etc that it would take extra time - and understandably so. I contacted the seller after 35 days, saying it wasn't received - they said they were shipping another within 24 hours and wouldn't leave me without, blah blah blah.
He lied. It is likely there never was an original item.
This is a common though fairly recent scam. You only want your money back.
HOW do I report this seller and get my money back?
Go to the credit card that you really paid with. (Paypal is just a useful mediator). Call the 1-800 number and ask the clerk about a chargeback. Have all your paperwork (transaction numbers, payments, currency, dates, etc) handy for her to process your refund.
You can only start a dispute for 45 days.
It shouldn't take more than 30 days for an item to arrive from Asia.
When you open a Dispute it takes the seller seconds to refund you. If the item arrives later you can repay the refund by using Paypal's Send Money service.
You can leave feedback and the more important DSRs for 60 days.
And you can leave a Response to any FB that you or the seller already left indefinitely. The most effective Responses are calm and factual. "Never rec'd item. Never rec'd replacement. Never rec'd refund." would cover it.