I don't think it is a scam.
It sounds as if all the error is on your part.
It is not difficult to cancel a sale, without making a refund.
, and eBay wants me to wait 2 days before opening an unpaid item case.
Did you go first to PP?
Go to your PP account and see if you can cancel that payment.
Did you do it as a 'Send Money'?
Because PP needs a payment before you can refund a payment, but you can Send Money to anyone anytime if you have their email address.