"I do hope someone at eBay can and will read this"
This is a member to member forum. No one from ebay will read your rant.
I'm not sure I understand what your problem is/was.
Were you trying to file an unpaid item dispute but ebay said you had to send the invoice first? I didn't know you had to but why is it a big deal? How hard it is to send an invoice? Did you try to file the dispute before the 4 day mark?
"eBay...get your &%$!##!! ducks in order okay? "
Without knowing what transpired between you and the buyer and ebay, it is possible your ducks weren't in order.
Non paying buyers deserve unpaid item strikes.