1 - what was the value of the shipment, it's probably that your buyer is not communicating well, I'm sure the money the "post office" wants is VAT not postage.
2 - Delivery to Italy is notoriously slow, It's always been bad but it became REALLY bad in 2006/07. There was a great deal of negative publicity in Italy on this issue last Fall and in recent months there does seem to be a fairly substantial improvement. Although I still warn my Italian buyers to expect up to 60 days for delivery most of my recent shipments have been delivered in less than 3 weeks with a couple arriving in about 10 days.

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