Who's the adult here?

73rhc
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After a mildly heated discussion in this board. I decide to check out the items of one of the other posters. I saw an item of interest and sent two message to get shipping charges to my house. I then received a reply that this is not only childish and un businesslike. But it begs the question, does this violate any eBay policy?

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Strikes me that you are being viewed as harassing a seller. Anyone can anyone for any or no reason.
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Please explain, how I harassed the seller. And could you please give us your real user id.
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Blocking buyers does not violate any ebay rule, regulations or policies.

 

Sellers can block any buyer they want to for any reason they want.

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Many users who post in here have 2 or more different ID's, one for selling, one for buying, perhaps even a different one for the dot.com boards. I know that some prefer to use one ID for posting exclusively, which is certainly their choice. Most times, these boards provide a helping hand for those with questions or problems. Not sure what the problem was with the previous discussion, but a lot of people read these boards. If you come across the wrong way, you may find yourself on blocked bidder lists. Similarly, if I asked an innocent question, and a seller came across as condescending or ignorant, I would certainly not buy anything from them. But, ultimately, it is the individual's choice whether to block someone, or not buy from them.


Cuppa Joe!



Rick
"Egotism is the anesthetic that dulls the pain of stupidity" - Frank Leahy
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Agree, answer is immature, you struck a nerve 🙂 But there is no violation. Also board argumentations are pointless, there is never concensus after heated discussions, just frustrated "ignore" clicking and BBL updating. I yet have to see the heated discussion on this board that would produce "you are right, I was wrong" from one of the two loudest parties.

 

in that discussion you were defending to the bone a seller making his choice, and buyer duty to respect it. your seller made choice of not selling to you. an irony.

 

one of the people who were opposing your argument and implied customer is king, then replied "in your face". another irony.

 

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I actually believe that some hide behind another id, so that we cannot see their activity. It's easy to give advise or come off as knowing all, when no one can look a their profile.
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@dipmicro,

You echo my sentiments exactly. This is the main reason I posted this. I know there is no violation, that was added for dramatics. Buyer is king, but only sometimes. Lol
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@ Inuk
Could you please have the decency to explain yourself.
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In many ways, sellers are much more at risk these days than when I did some selling many years back. I sold inexpensive items, used video games, relatively cheaply, $10 including shipping. Never had 1 item not received claim. If I decided to sell again, I doubt I could do the same thing without worrying about how many fraudsters are out there. I would want some kind of tracking on the parcel, but the cost would be so prohibitive that nothing would sell, at least for lower value items. So, you take a chance, and hope. And, even worse, sellers can no longer leave negative feedback, so your only recourse would be to comment on buyers feedback and hope people actually read it. Ebaying in Canada can be a daunting prospect, with postal costs the way they are, for lower value items. Higher value, say $50 and over, not nearly as bad. Most of us here would love the USPS cost options, but we have a larger country in area, and only 10% of their population. Our expense is therefore not surprising.


Cuppa Joe!



Rick
"Egotism is the anesthetic that dulls the pain of stupidity" - Frank Leahy
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I totally agree with you. There are those in this forum, who would try to convince you otherwise.
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@73rhc wrote:
@ Inuk
Could you please have the decency to explain yourself.

Can't speak for Inuk, but when I read the post in question, it says "Strikes me that you are being viewed as harassing a seller."

 

The way I read it, Inuk didn't say that you were harassing the seller, only that the seller may have felt harassed.  See the difference?

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Sorry but I don't. If someone is going to throw "harassment" around. Then they should back it up. I take that post as an insult, as I take the harassment issue very seriously. I never harassed anyone, here.
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Btw, if the seller felt harassed, he could have complained to eBay. And they would take action. So no, there was no need to post that. I think that they are probably friends and doing a little tag-team thing.
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Are you saying that the seller did not have the shipping price on their listing and that is why you asked?

 

I do have shipping prices listed but when I get asked for the cost anyway, I answer politely.

However, if a seller who was arguing with me on the boards suddenly asked me for

a shipping cost that was already listed, I would probably think that they not serious and were

just trying to get a reaction from me. Perhaps I would be wrong about that but seriously, why

would that seller who already knows where to look for a shipping cost ask me for the cost?

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Okay, here's a simpler way of stating Inuk's post:

 

Perhaps the seller thought you were harassing them.


Since you're an adult, you'll appreciate that this is more a statement about the seller than you.

 

 

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What marn says. Seller viewed you as a threat. Seller did not want to have any correspondence with you. Seller thought, rightly or wrongly, you were out to "get" them. Seller does not want to have anything to do with you, yet, you pursued them. View your actions anyway you want, seller vieweed them differently.

 

Do not judge your actions as you intend them. View your actions as how the other party receives them.

 

You contacted someone who did not want to be contacted by you. To them, that could be harassment. They took their appropriate action, for themselves.

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"But it begs the question, does this violate any eBay policy?'

 

To answer your question specifically, a seller deciding to block you does not violate eBay's policy.

 

That answers that question.

 

However, your post raises two questions.

 

You wrote "I saw an item of interest and sent two message to get shipping charges to my house"

 

1) Why? Did the listing not quote a shipping price?

 

2) Why two messages?

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The listing did not have shipping cost. Maybe it's because the seller is in the US and I'm in Canada? Two message, simple. I first asked for shipping cost. That went unanswered. So I asked again. That is when he/she told me tat I had been blocked.
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Bupy asking for a shipping cost? Come on.
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