"If a week or so after shipping someone your product... they leave you negative feedback and charge back the transaction through PayPal, you have lost your opportunity to use the eBay FB system effectively... to be able to warn other sellers that the Buyer is not legitimate and in fact has not completed the transaction."
And yet, this is what I'm telling you. The buyer HAS completed the transaction, and IS legitimate. If you definite "complete" differently, that's fine. My auctions say that the buyer's obligation is finished once they pay and provide a shipping address. End of story. You can't say that I'm misuing the eBay feedback system anymore than I can say you are.
"There are no favours the customer is doing for me by paying me, he is obligated."
Again, this is just a difference in how you and I run our businesses. My buyers ARE doing me a favour by buying from me and paying me, and I thank them for it with feedback. You can definitely accuse me of having poor judgment, but keep in mind that it works extremely well for me. Your method is working very well for you, as evidenced by the fact that you are posting here on the PS board. You are not a failure.
"It is only upon the completion of the entire transaction, the buyer keeping the item or how the parties negotiate the return... that determines the success of the deal between the parties at which time it would be ideal for both parties to leave their respective feedbacks."
That may be true for violins, but it isn't true for collectible cards. I've shipped about 4000 auctions of cards: 1 has been lost in the mail, 0 have been damaged, 0 have been mis-shipped, and 0 have been "not as described". There's near no chance for error. So little chance, in fact, that I have a no-return policy. My buyers get exactly what they purchase from me. These cards are well known to the buyers, unlike buying a violin, which they may or may not have held in a store or at a friend's house. They might not be happy with it. It may have a small flaw in workmanship. It can be damaged in shipment. It can take weeks or get stuck at the border. The cards, they go into a plain envelope, protected in a hard plastic sleeve. There just aren't any errors. I leave immediate feedback, because I know the only way a buyer can leave anything other than positive is if they are lying or trying to cheat me. Yes, it has happened on 7 or 8 occasions now. I've had 6 of these people NARUd, and it didn't take a negative retaliation feedback to get done. That is the ultimate power of the PowerSeller. Retaliation feedback is fun and yeah it helps warn other sellers, but saying "No more eBay for you, for the rest of your life" is just as good (or better).
"Again though, the bottom line is, each person leaves feedback in the manner he choses. Some people seem to think it's the honourable thing to do"
You're right that it is each seller's choice to leave feedback how they want. You're wrong if you think it has anything to do with honour.
"Oh, and this is a direct copy and paste from ebay's own help section"
What that quote means is that you shouldn't leave feedback in anger, but try and resolve the issue with the other person. It doesn't mean that you should hold back your feedback to see if they neg you or not.
"how much time is spent trying to get these guys narud, Why? Isnt that retaliatory?"
Verymuchso. If someone tries to trick, lie, or cheat me out of money or products, I retaliate by having them removed permanently from the eBay system.
"we now have a system within eBay that allows us to get the neg removed if both parties have given each other negs and both parties agree to their removal... where is your leverage when you are left a neg and the buyer has been left a positive? Nowhere"
That's not true. The mutual feedback removal system allows removal of any type of feedback. Since this new system went in, I've had one opportunity to use it. He left me a negative because he had buyer remorse. I offered him a refund if he returned the cards, and he agreed. We both had our feedbacks removed using the new system.
"It has been suggested in this thread that by first leaving positive FB, you stand a better chance of receiving positive feedback in return. Isnt that bribery?"
I'm not sure where you're going with that suggestion. Should we call the RCMP and see if they want to press charges or something?
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