Bill, I TOTALLY agree with all you said. In all my dealings on ebay, the majority of people I've dealt with are great, and no problem, but unfortunately, I've come across a few goofballs, two who left me negatives, and one who is surely going to leave me one in the next little while. I did not one thing to deserve these negatives, and I negged the two who gave me the negs, and will neg this other guy once my NPB is complete, and some may call it retaliatory, but I call it giving "MY" feedback of the entire transaction.
There are SO many things a buyer can do after the fact, that would make him not deserve a positive. Bidder could give the wrong address, and then blame the seller when the item takes a long time to get there as the item had to be returned to seller, and then remailed to the correct address, at the seller's expense. The bidder then leaves a negative for slow delivery. I've seen it happen.
Bidder could buy a pair of size 7 shoes, when she really wears a size 8, and when they don't fit (DUH) give the seller a negative. I've seen it happen.
Bidder could ruin his Celine Dion cd, and buy a new one on ebay, and when he receives it, he emails seller saying, your cd sucks, it doesn't work, and seller is then stuck paying for the shipping of it to be returned, and has to refund the bidder. Bidder gets new cd, for nothing, and seller is out the cost of the cd plus two shippings. Happens a lot. Could be dvd's, or software, of vhs tapes. What about bidders who get the items, make a copy, and then return the original and asks for refund? Happens a lot.
What about the bidder who purchases a Royal Doulton figurine, because her son little Johnny broke the one she just paid $250 for. No problem, buy one on ebay. Pay immediately. Seller sends it in PERFECT condition. Takes out of box, replaces broken one with the new PERFECT one, and then emails seller, all angry DEMANDING a refund as this piece of junk is broken. HAPPENS A LOT.
I could go on and on and on. Are these rare occurrences? Sadly, not really. These things might not all happen to one seller but obviously, the more you sell, the greater the possiblity of being a victim os some of these scams.
Also, some buyers are p*ssed if your item doesn't arrive within 3 days, and frankly, I know that some of my parcels arrive in a respectable amount of time, but some don't. Why should I get a negative because the PO is slow with the mail? Happens all the time.
Whether to leave feedback immediately or not is a personal choice, and one we each need to make for ourselves. My guess is when someone has a confrontation with one of these fruitcakes, it does a lot towards changing that seller's beliefs on when to leave feedback.
Besides, ebay does recommend feedback not be left until the transaction is complete.